Wednesday, April 15th, 2009...8:45 pm

About Loss

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Most people don’t realize that grief is far more than the heartbreak of loss.

Grief is an overwhelming experience that sends your emotions, mind, thoughts, and entire being into shock.
 

Grief is a mind scrambling as you try to figure out how to make everything right again from the perspective of this emergency. The event shatters your normal frame of reference and comfort zone, so your mind literally goes into overdrive – questioning and having to re-evaluate and worry about every minute detail, as you try to re-balance yourself.
 

Grief is a continual bombardment of emotions, stress, shock
and mental anguish. And people wonder why they feel overwhelmed!

 

The Bereavement Process

  • Initially, your mind and emotions are in shock and totally overloaded. Intense emotions bombard you from every direction.
  • At the same time, you undergo the difficult task of putting your life back together.
  • Your mind bombards you with mind chatter, as you frantically think about everything in minute detail in an attempt to find the answers that you have no frame of reference for.

This affects you mentally, as you feel the emotional, physical and mental strain of this incredibly overwhelming experience.

If it has been several years since your loss, the emotions of this initial overload are still held within you are are affecting your ability to heal and continue with your life. It may sound incredible that you could still be carrying around this buried pain, even after a decade. But think about it: if something is buried, it stays buried until we bring it to the surface. This explains why you still feel the emotions so strongly today.

  • While you may not feel this initial overwhelming stage of grief now, it is still within you, affecting your everyday behaviors.
  • The coping techniques that your mind took on at the time of your loss are the ones you still use, even if they no longer serve you well.
  • If you became anxious and fearful of life after your loss, that became a part of you, and is still your way of life. (eg, if you became a worrier after a loss, you still worry today.)

 

You might also like:


A Fresh Perspective
of Grief


How To Heal Your Loss


The Emotions of Grief


Myths and Realities of Grief


Help A Friend Who Is Grieving

 

A Fresh Perspective of Grief and Loss
Traditional Methods for Coping with Grief
Emotions and Grief
About Loss
How To Heal Your Loss
Free Podcast: Loss of a Loved One
Understand Your Emotions of Grief
The Myths and Realities of Grief
How Can I Help A Friend Who Is Grieving?
The Emotional Stages of Grief

 

 

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