Greene's Release

They are natural, and you cannot help feeling them. You feel them because you care.

Emotions show us how we feel, but just like thoughts, they are expressions to experience and then set free. We can’t control nor put them on a timetable, or logically understand them. All we can do is allow them full expression so we may feel, finish with and then release them from our being.

Emotions of grief are confusing. While it feels right to mourn and feel the pain of loss, the confusing and unpredictable nature of these emotions leave you so overwhelmed that you desperately seek relief, and then feel guilty for wanting to do so.
 

• Emotions are stored: When emotions are not dealt with as they occur, they are stored inside, ready to combine and strengthen the next emotion. You are not feeling the emotions of this one incidence, but a combination of all the times you have felt this emotion.
• Your emotional storage bin is full: Our storage bin of repressed emotions fills up and eventually overflows. This is why you suddenly burst into tears at the most surprising and inconvenient times. You are full of emotional pain. You are full of emotional pain.
• You are continually feeling spontaneous emotions of loss: You don’t just feel one emotion after the loss of a loved one, but one after another after another throughout each day. You are overwhelmed with the spontaneous emotional expressions of your inner thoughts and feelings about the loss of someone you love.
• You are continually bombarded with emotional shocks: These arise from the funeral, telling friends about the death, going out for the first time without the loved one, facing friends and family and feeling vulnerable, dealing with hospital bills long after the loss, the first time you do anything alone, holidays, and any other time you are reminded of your grief.
• Your mind is confused and you’re going crazy with worries:
  “What will happen in the future?”, “Will I be okay?”, “Will I ever have children again?”, “How am I going to do this?”, “I don’t want to get upset in front of people.”
• Thinking and over-thinking: We tell ourselves stories of events to worry about, thereby creating the corresponding emotional reaction. The more we think, the more intense is the emotional impact we create.

The emotions are sad and painful, but we do not need to hold onto them like most people do. Your loss may have been 5 weeks, 5 years or 50 years ago, but you still feel it as strongly today as you did back then because until released, emotions are stored within.

Now that you understand why you feel this way, you can stop being so hard on yourself and begin to heal and remove this pain. After all, it is not yours to hold on to.

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